That’s how you should be after you masturbate : happy. Happy that you had fun. Happy that you took care of your needs. Happy that you pleased yourself. Happy that you ejaculated. Happy that you masturbated.
There’s no denying that masturbation is an important part of your sex life. In fact, for the overwhelming majority of men (if not all of them), masturbation is by far the most important source of sexual pleasure. By very far indeed : statistically speaking, the life-time ratio of masturbation-induced orgasm versus other causes for orgasm is said to be 50:1… This means that for every one time you made love or had a blow-job in your life, you masturbated fifty times on average. Yes : 50 ! For one thing, this statistic helps in understanding why making love is perceived as being very desirable, as it is by comparison quite uncommon (rarity creates desirability). Yet, this statistic also demonstrates that you have no reason to belittle masturbation. Masturbation plays a pivotal role in your sex life, and in the sex life of virtually all men around you. Not only you are not the only one to masturbate, but you are not the only one to masturbate often !
This same statistic should also help you understand why you shouldn’t be ashamed of masturbating. If, on average, men masturbate 50 times for every time they make love, then masturbation is not a failure but a normal sexual activity. More than normal, in fact : masturbation is the foundation of one’s sex life ! You have no reason to feel shame for doing something that’s not only common and harmless, but also the overwhelming source of sexual pleasure in a man’s life. Masturbation is normal, feeling guilty about it isn’t. You need to recognize how natural and healthy masturbation is. You must learn to feel good about masturbation as much as masturbation makes you feel good.
I’m not advocating that masturbation should take centre stage in your life — life’s too short to limit yourself to one single activity, no matter how fun it is. In fact, unless you were desperately trying to restrict yourself because of false beliefs, freeing yourself of the unwarranted stigmatization of masturbation will not cause you to masturbate more. What will change is your wellbeing as you masturbate. Feeling normal about masturbation is undeniably liberating. Learning to truly appreciate the value of masturbation and accept its importance in your life will allow you to feel serene as you will finally end the disconnect between the reality of your behaviour (the fact that you masturbate) and your beliefs.
May is masturbation month because we need to put an end to this demonizing of masturbation that uselessly hurts and cripples many lives. Please help get the message across : reblog or link to this post as much as you can on every social platform ! Together we can educate men, women and the many institutions that attempt decide how you should behave in the privacy of your home. Together we can eradicate the negative image masturbation has been charged with.